If you are in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at
1-800-273-TALK (8255) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741

You are
not alone

Are you feeling depressed, anxious or alone? Do you feel your family or friends can’t understand what you are going through? Do you feel like you are a burden? Do you have a friend or a loved one experiencing these feelings?

Your feelings matter. We are here to listen and help you.

Real People.
Real Voices.

Reaching out when you need help or when someone you know is struggling can be hard, but it can make all the difference. Browse these stories and see that you are not alone.

Kyle

Kyle

My Attempt

Kyle

Alexis

Alexis

My Friend

Alexis

Melissa

Melissa

My Brother

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Warning
Signs

Below you’ll find common warning signs of suicide to look out for:

  1. Changes in appearance, neglect of hygiene
  2. Changes in mood, behavioral problems
  3. Changes in eating habits
  4. Frequent visits to school nurse
  5. Isolated on school bus, in cafeteria

  1. Loss of interest in favorite activities and/or schoolwork, complaints of boredom
  2. Does not respond to praise as before
  3. Unusual pattern of absences, tardiness, cutting class
  4. Bullying behavior or social media aggression
  5. Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
  6. Withdrawal from friends

  1. Concerns expressed by other friends/peers
  2. Using drugs and alcohol
  3. Giving away possessions, getting affairs in order
  4. Preoccupation with violence, dying/death, drawings, poems related to death/violence
  5. Talking about being a BURDEN to others; emotional distress, complaining
  6. Talking about wanting to die, feeling hopeless, being trapped

  1. Actual threats or suicide notes
Start the Conversation

Start the Conversation

If you think someone might be suicidal, don’t be afraid to ask the question. It doesn’t hurt to ask! You would rather get "no" as an answer than risk missing a chance to help.

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A simple guide to a difficult conversation

1. Ask, “Are you ok?”

2. Listen with a calm, receptive, open mind

3. Tell someone

4. Follow up

What
to Say

What to Say

I have been feeling concerned about you lately.

What to Say

Recently, I have noticed some differences in you and wondered how you are doing.

What to Say

I wanted to check in with you because you haven't seemed yourself lately.

What to Say

It seems like you are going through a difficult time. How can I help you to find help?

What to Say

I've been worried about you. Can we talk about what you are experiencing? If not, who are you comfortable talking to?

Additional questions you can ask

What to Say

Do you want to talk about it?

What to Say

When did you begin feeling like this?

What to Say

Did something happen that made you start feeling this way?

What to Say

What can I do to help?

What to Say

Have you thought about getting help?

What to Say

I care about you and want to listen. What do you want me to know about how you are feeling?

What to Say

Who or what has helped you deal with similar issues in the past?

Ask the direct question

What to Say

Are you thinking about suicide?

What to Say

Do you have a plan to take your own life?

What to Say

Have you ever been so unhappy lately that you’ve thought about ending your life?

What to Say

When people are as upset as you seem to be, they sometimes wish they were dead. I’m wondering if you’re feeling that way?

What to Say

I'm concerned about your safety. Have you thought about harming yourself?

What you can say to help

What to Say

You are not alone in this. I am here for you.

What to Say

I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.

What to Say

I’m sorry you’re feeling so bad.

What to Say

We’ll get through this together.

What to Say

Let’s keep you safe.

And,
don’t
forget

And,don’tforget

You are NOT giving them the idea by asking about suicide.

People don’t wake up one day and decide to take their lives. By asking the question, you give them the opportunity to talk about some scary thoughts.

NEVER promise to keep a secret when there is a danger to someone’s life.

And be prepared to break it if you do. Keeping a promise is not as important as saving a life.

You’re not solely responsible for making them feel better.

You’ve opened the door to this important and perhaps life-saving conversation. This is a shared responsibility that belongs to more than one person.

What NOT
to say

Sometimes the things we say in normal conversation can sound to a person who is thinking about suicide like we are insensitive or simply don’t understand their pain.

What to Say

Don’t worry, everything will be alright.

What to Say

By next week, you’ll forget all about it.

What to Say

This is nothing!

What to Say

Cheer up!

What to Say

You have so much to be thankful for.

What to Say

Think about how your family would feel if you killed yourself.

What to Say

Don't be so dramatic.

Next Steps?

Next Steps?

You've seen the warning signs and started the conversation. What now?

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What to do when:

You need help now. You have a plan and access to means.

Show Answer

Answer:

Tell someone what you are thinking. Ask an adult for help.

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 2NDFLOOR: 1-888-222-2228. If you need immediate help, call 9-1-1.

What to do when:

You're experiencing sadness, hopelessness, withdrawing from friends & suicidal thoughts.

Show Answer

Answer:

Tell a trusted adult - a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, or coach.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

2NDFLOOR: 1-888-222-2228

What to do when:

Your friend is expressing suicidal thoughts.

Show Answer

Answer:

Don’t wait. Tell a trusted adult immediately. Never keep it a secret if a friend tells you about a plan to hurt themselves.

What to do when:

You’re with a friend who appears to be struggling with mental health symptoms/stress.

Show Answer

Answer:

Encourage them to talk to a trusted adult - a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, coach, etc.

What to do when:

You're a parent with a child who has suicidal thoughts.

Show Answer

Answer:

Always take what they are saying seriously. Don’t minimize their feelings. Start a conversation by asking them how long they have been feeling this way and if they have a plan. If they have a plan, take them to your nearest emergency room. Let them know that together, you will get through this. If there are pills, guns, or bullets in the house, lock them up in a secure location.

What to do when:

You're a parent with a child who is exhibiting warning signs of suicide.

Show Answer

Answer:

Let your child know what signs you’re seeing. Let them know that you are concerned, and are here for them. If they don’t want to talk to you, provide them with this number to call: 2NDFLOOR 1-888-222-2228. If there are pills, guns, or bullets in the house, lock them up in a secure location. Find them a counselor.

What to do when:

Your friend is experiencing mental health symptoms but is NOT suicidal.

Show Answer

Answer:

Call us for information and a referral to assist with finding support in the community. Give them the Crisis Text Line number: 741741. Follow-up and continue checking in.

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Contact Us

The information you provide will be completely confidential, and you will be contacted by a trained professional. If you’re feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

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Additional
Resources

Suicide
is the 2nd leading cause of death in young people ages 10-24. (CDC)


Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

NJ Suicide Prevention Hopeline: 1-855-654-6735

2NDFLOOR: Call/Text 1-888-222-2228

TrevorLifeline: 1-866-488-7386, Text TALK to 678678

Crisis Text Line: Text TALK to 741741

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide

Not Ok App

Facts About Suicide

You Matter

Active Minds

The Trevor Project

Love is Respect

Stop Bullying

Ditch the Label

Suicide
is the 2nd leading cause of death in young people ages 10-24. (CDC)

Mental illness is real.

Treatment is available.

Recovery is possible.

Suicide is a preventable death.

If you are in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741